Upon seeing this, I immediately thought of several clients with whom it may resonate. There is the client who is slowly \u2018shrinking\u2019 and losing her voice because she\u2019s dealing with a larger than life employee, who pushes her buttons, challenges her and it results in her feeling she\u2019s all out of options. The client who blamed himself when his now ex wife remarked he was \u2018asking for too much\u2019 (actually his requests were \u2018normal\u2019 in any long term relationship) and so he \u2018dulled\u2019 himself down, lost his voice and stopped asking for his needs to be met in the marriage. And I have a client who \u2018dimmed\u2019 her light because she had been taught by her upbringing that \u201cwe don\u2019t celebrate success because we don\u2019t want people to think we are arrogant\u201d. And so it goes on.<\/p>\n
I see so many clients that have downplayed their achievements, quietened their voice or hidden their true potential because they were afraid of being judged or misunderstood.<\/p>\n
The following are words from Jay – full credit goes to his \u2018the daily wisdom<\/strong>\u2019 newsletter:<\/p>\n \u201cWe often shrink ourselves to appease the people around us, but the truth is, your <\/strong>smallness does not serve the world. When you dilute who you are to match the comfort <\/strong>level of someone else, you are denying yourself your own gifts and denying other people <\/strong>what they may need.<\/strong><\/p>\n Holding back your energy, your ideas, and enthusiasm so you don\u2019t come across as \u201ctoo <\/strong>much\u201d, is dimming your light. If someone cannot handle the depth of who you are, the scale <\/strong>of your ambition, or the fullness of your love, that is not a reflection of your worth.<\/strong><\/p>\n It may just be a reflection of their current capacity.<\/strong><\/p>\n By standing more fully in who you are, you may encourage others to do the same. You don\u2019t <\/strong>have to break yourself into smaller pieces just to fit into spaces you have outgrown\u201d.<\/strong><\/p>\n One of my many roles as a coach and therapist is to help clients turn up to the \u2018job\u2019 of their life, knowing that inherently, as the person they are at their core, there is \u201cnothing wrong with me\u2019. Mel Robbins invites us to \u201cwake up every single day and believe there is nothing wrong with me\u201d. <\/strong>For us to \u201caccept ourselves exactly as we are and exactly as we aren\u2019t\u201d.<\/strong> She says of course there are things that we can improve about ourselves, but that if we fundamentally believe \u2018there is nothing wrong with me\u2019 we can start to change the relationship that we have with ourselves – and have the courage to be an \u2018ocean\u2019.<\/p>\n If you are functioning in the world from a place of smallness, then I can help. All details can be found on the hypnotherapy<\/a>, NLP<\/a> and life coaching<\/a> pages.<\/p>\n Jay says, \u201cThe main point is: do not apologise for the depth of your soul. Be the ocean, and <\/strong>let others learn to swim\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" This week\u2019s blog is a result of newsletter inspiration from […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"content-type":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[38],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3527","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-blog"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newportcomplementaryhealthclinic.co.uk\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3527","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newportcomplementaryhealthclinic.co.uk\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newportcomplementaryhealthclinic.co.uk\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newportcomplementaryhealthclinic.co.uk\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newportcomplementaryhealthclinic.co.uk\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3527"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.newportcomplementaryhealthclinic.co.uk\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3527\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3530,"href":"https:\/\/www.newportcomplementaryhealthclinic.co.uk\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3527\/revisions\/3530"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.newportcomplementaryhealthclinic.co.uk\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3527"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newportcomplementaryhealthclinic.co.uk\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3527"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.newportcomplementaryhealthclinic.co.uk\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3527"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}![\"\"](\"https:\/\/www.newportcomplementaryhealthclinic.co.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/IMG_9303.jpeg\")